About me (Kylie)

Life has taught me to bring curiosity and awareness of possibility to everything.

When I hear about someone’s educational qualifications for example, my assumptions are thin indeed. I assume only those things that really must be true (i.e. somehow the person was considered to have fulfilled the requirements of the degree at that time) and leave everything else in an unresolved blur of possibilities. They may be working in the field they studied, or not. They may fit the stereotypes of that industry. Or not. They may care about their qualification… or not. All those possibilities and more remain very much open.

Useful as assumptions can be, they don’t actually provide much insight to reality — to what IS in a given case.

An 80% statistical probability of an assumption being true leaves a 20% chance that it isn’t.

That 20% really remains alive for me.

This keen awareness of the fundamental difference between possibility and probability is a central feature of my personal approach to navigating the world.

And like everything, my approach has pros and cons.

On the negative side, it can at times make me slower than others to form an opinion or reach a decision. Heuristics have their place! Plus, my journey to figure out what is mine to do in this life was a long one, with many false starts, twists and turns, as I tried to find a place inside the game. (Eventually I realised that’s not what I’m here to do at all!)

On the positive side, I often see, clear as day and very quickly, what is apparently invisible or unpredictable to most people. And what many others feel as sudden and major upheavals in external reality, I frequently feel as minor shifts in possibility space. I let go of ideas and expectations in seconds flat, recalibrate, and pivot on a dime.

Years ago, a friend laughingly named this the ‘Kylie boom factor’, explaining that he’d observed me going 100 miles an hour in one direction and in the next beat, boom! I’m moving at the same speed in an entirely different direction.

Of course I laughed with him about how crazy this must look from the outside, but internally, ‘boom!’ is not my experience at all. I am simply taking the next right-feeling step available in my possibility space, so to me it feels like I’m travelling a pretty straight line!

Holding uncertainty as ‘just the way things are’ enables flexibility, creativity, and wise choice and action that simply isn’t available when assumptions (or heuristics) are accepted as truth, or as fixed or hard boundaries on what is possible.

In Kairotic Flow, my home (preferred) archetype is Scout.

Exploring and orienting in the unknown is my specialty.

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